1. Respect the individuality of each child.
  2. Help each child to develop healthy self-esteem.
  3. Identify the strength and weakness of each child and formulate realistic expectations.
  4. Don’t make comparisons among your children.
  5. Hug and kiss your children for no particular reason.
  6. Always maintain eye contact.
  7. When things go wrong, focus on the behaviour and not the child.
  8. Remember that you are an example to your children.
  9. Focus on your child’s strengths and tell them about it.
  10. Be consistent in your disciplining method.
  11. Teach the child rather than punish.
  12. Never try to reason with a child who is enraged.
  13. When emotions get out of control, take a break from the dialogue.
  14. Be proactive in teaching children about frustration management, anger control, rage reduction and releasing bitterness.
  15. Stay calm.

When anger problems seem out of control, or you just don’t know what to do, get help.


If your preschooler won’t cooperate, consider if what you are asking him to do is realistic for his age and level of development. Show him clearly the behaviour you want to see and try to reward his cooperative actions with lots of praise and attention.